Lets imagine 25 years later when your children will be grown up, married and settled in another city or country. Do you think they will share everything with you or will they call you when they are about to take some important decision of their life? If your answer is yes then you are on a right track and keep building your family bonding but if you are confused then you will not able to change anything 25 years later, now is a time to do something about it.
We all know as children get older it gets difficult to know what’s happening in their life especially now when children have access to the unknown Internet world and smartphones.
Research has shown lack of quality communication between parents and children in their early childhood can lead to family disconnect and weak emotional bonding. According dailymail.co.uk , a new survey says that parents and children have less than eight hours together in total each week.
Parents are too busy and get tired after long hours of work where as children get exhausted with too many after school activities. At the end of the day neither children nor parents have energy to engage and spend quality time with each other.
We need to understand that no matter how much money we spend on our kids, the risk of spending less time with children is just too high. As they grow into teenage stage, it demands openness and independence. It is absolutely important that your child has a strong and trusted relationship with you to talk without fear. Your undivided time and love are essential to grow them into happy and responsible adults.
Quality time doesn’t mean going out for a family vacation once or twice a year or having dinner out with your eyes glued to the digital screen once in a while. Quality time means religiously spending unstructured creative time together which initiate laughter and open conversations without any distractions. The time spent by you with your children can’t be compensated with anything and it will be the most cherished part of their growing up. It will help you also to understand their perspective better which also guide you to make the right decision for them.
The best way to engage and open your teenager is to find a common interest activity. It is essential to choose an activity which both of you enjoy. You will be mistaken if you select the activity based on your children’s choice only. Children normally sense it out when you fictitious to be happy and engage. It is vital to be really enjoying and conversing while spending time together to understand each other’s likes and dislikes.
Allocate at least an hour or 30 minutes daily to engage with your children without distractions in the fun conversation. Following unstructured activities will spout your family into laughter and bond you together for life:
- Have dinner together without digital screen.
- Doodle each other’s face.
- After dinner have a surprise message hunt.
- Make something out of waste bottles.
- Make Family animation film in holidays.
- Mimic each other.
- Play Ping-Pong on dining table or without table.
- Musical games.
- Board games like Business or Bingo
- Click each other’s photo with a funny face based on the theme given.
- Plan a fine dining at home. Create Menu, Cook and eat together. Don’t be afraid to involve your younger kids.
Once a month plan creative activity weekend and bring your family together. For example Instead of sending children for art classes alone how about booking a sculpting session for a family together over a weekend. This way you will get a chance to explore something totally new and your children will also admire your creation. If your family prefers sports then book beach badminton court or a long tennis to play a game together.
Once in two months make your children in charge to plan some fun activity for a family. Give them total freedom without judging or criticizing to plan and decide an activity. Do tell them your preference if they already don’t know briefly. If they are too young to book or plan then allow them to take help of one of your friend or family members. The family will cherish these memorable moments spend together for life.
Making a family ritual of spending time every day will be a rewarding experience for parents to introduce family values to their children. Also, it will become children’s second habit, which will assist them to build a happy relationship in future.
Written by Vinnie Mehta,
Founder of Nanos Arte